Firstly, I hope everyone managed to have a good Christmas, despite the less than ideal circumstances we all find ourselves in. We had a lovely time, but it was hard not meeting up with family and friends. All I can say is, thank heaven for Zoom!
This year, the ‘in-between’ week from Christmas to New Year is a strange one. The normal things that happen during this period aren’t taking place. Here in the UK we are basically in lockdown. So there has been no trips to the post-Christmas sales; no outings to the cinema; no festive evenings with friends… There’s a kind of stillness in the air, a flatness in the the lead up to New Year. It’s as if the world is holding its breath in the hope that better things are coming.
This week always finds me in a reflective mood (I suppose it’s the same for most of us). I think about the year that’s rapidly coming to an end and take time to look back on the good things… what went well, what goals I managed to achieve, etc. Also, the things that didn’t go so well, the goals I didn’t achieve, and the things that didn’t get done. I tend not to dwell too much on the later, except to resolve to do better in the future.
While I’m extremely grateful that my loved ones have come through the year and have remained virus-free, there has been one major family health challenge that came out of the blue and has left me reflecting on the fragility of life. It has certainly put things back into perspective, making me realise that my distinct lack of writing focus in 2020 (caused by major procrastination issues – no excuse) is really, in the bigger scheme of things, not that important. I failed big-time in meeting the goals I set, but there’s always next year.
But regardless of meeting goals or not, it’s always a good idea to set them. It is our goals that can help keep us rooted when life is especially challenging. They push us forward into the great unknown where all kinds of possibilities exist. I’m reminded of the wonderful Desiderata with its instruction to “keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.”
As the New Year approaches, I wish you everything that you wish for yourself. Stay safe, my friends. We’re getting there!
Well, it’s that time of year again. That dastardly beginning when all, umm, some, umm, a few of us set goals for the coming year. I asked my husband, who is not a goal-setter, what his goal for 2019 was. … Continue reading →
I hope everyone had a happy, healthy and wonderful Christmas. It’s over all too quickly, isn’t it?
So, 2019 beckons and with it comes the annual goal-setting and forward planning activities. Next year I’m planning to write more and that means simplifying life wherever possible. With that in mind, I kept a log for a few weeks noting the unproductive time spent on social media just surfing around and doing nothing much in particular. It was scary. Hours passed and at the end of it I couldn’t tell you what I’d been doing. I know many of us relate to this phenomenon.
One the of things I’ll be doing to simplify things is run down my online presence as Tricia Jones. Seeing I no longer write under this name, it seems a sensible option. Having spoken to Laurie and Lavada, they agreed that I could write future blogs here at Over the Backyard Fence as Faye Avalon, which is the name I write under. That way, I can close down my Tricia Jones wordpress account (which will be great because switching between two accounts can be a pain, especially when I can’t remember passwords, etc.). So if you see this strange woman popping up on the blog and wonder where she came from, it’ll be me 🙂
Seeing this is both my last blog of the year and as Tricia, I thought to stick to tradition and post my favourite TV advert of the Christmas season. To be honest, I wasn’t overly impressed with them this year, so this one stood out.
It’s New Year’s Eve as I type this blog. This past week has been focused on setting up my goals for 2018. Do you do goals? I’ve gone back and forth on them until the past few years. Mostly because every time I set them, I’d consider myself a failure for never getting them all done in the year.
Then I realized something, after a year of not doing goals. When I do goals, I get more done. So maybe I don’t lose all the pounds I want to lose. But I see that list up above my computer and try a little harder. And maybe I don’t get four books written (did I REALLY write that as a goal?) But I get 2 ½ done. And that’s more than the one I did the year I didn’t write goals.
And fellow blogger Tricia Jones gave me an idea at the beginning of 2017. She suggested writing 100 goals for the year. Yikes! That was intimidating. But I did it. Everything from losing weight to getting the windows washed and the closets gone through. At the end of the year, I’d accomplished 49 of those goals. And I got another 13 over the halfway mark. I honestly don’t think I’d have gotten that far without having taken a look at that list every month.
So I’m officially a fan of goals. And, being a list-maker (I take after my mother), it’s completely satisfying to have a list to work from and check things off of.
Whether you do goals or not, though, my wish for each of you is that 2018 is a safe, happy, and peace-filled year.
I’ll leave you with a picture of Dude, in a rare outside foray with snow on the ground. He REALLY doesn’t like the cold. Poor kitty. But we managed a rare white Christmas this year, so Dude’s mom (me) was VERY happy. 🙂
Toward the end of last year, I kept hearing about a goal-setting system that women around the world seemed to be raving about. A great believer in metaphysical arrows, and having far too many signs urging me to take a … Continue reading →
Even the panhandle of Florida is in the 20s with wind chill in the teens. I see where you friends in the Pacific Northwest are even getting cold, cold temps and snow. Our England pals are also getting winter. Now, we here in Pensacola are in the throes of the season (for 48 hours)- by Wednesday this week, it’ll be back to 74 degrees.
Last week, it was in the 70s and there were two nights of severe weather and even a few tornadoes. Then, by the weekend, it was in the 20s. Friday, it didn’t get over 38 degrees. It’s a wonder we don’t all perish from the craziness of the season.
Every one stay warm and cozy!!
I’m not one to make new year’s resolutions because I always say that word seems to set me up for failure. The word goal seems much more palatable to me. I can accomplish a goal, not too sure I can do the same with a resolution.
Since Kit put it out there in the universe that she’s going to get her books published and going to enter some art contests, I’m going to put out there that I plan (goal) to publish at least 4 this year. So, I’ve said it, let’s see if I will do it! 🙂
It’s hard to believe that Christmas is all but over now and we’re nudging another new year. Where did December go? Let alone the whole year? But it’s once again the time for reviewing what has gone before and for planning what will be. To take stock of goals, aspirations, and what we hope to achieve in the coming year. Some of my goals seem to get transferred from one year to another, with not much in the way of progress being made on them. So this coming year I’ll be tweaking my approach to achieving them in the hope that next year they’ll be off the list! After all, didn’t someone once say that “if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got”? 🙂
I know that 2016 has been a tough year for many of my friends here at the Fence, as well as a challenging year for the world at large, so I wish everyone a Healthy, Happy, Prosperous and Peaceful New Year. I’ll end this short post with my favourite TV Christmas Advert this year, which is a reminder that despite adversity it is always possible to emerge triumphant and find our way back home.
So, I hear that this year’s first day also has a new moon and that rarely happens. It seems that the people who watch the sky think this is an auspicious beginning to 2014. A new blank page on the calendar, a brand new moon for the month as well as a new year all point to a clean slate to build dreams and goals. I also will be cracking the spine on a new journal. I use about 5-6 a year and I couldn’t tell you the last time I had one that I filled in the last page of on a December 31 so I’m calling that an auspicious beginning as well. All this blankness facing us and I’m ready to fill in some goodness into that space. Are you?
Imagine if the whole world looked at this day as a brand new beginning. We could do so much as a planet if we all gave due respect to the opportunities facing us with all the newness abounding all around. Wouldn’t it be awesome if we all dove in to good things and not the bad that seem to teem all over the globe?
What goals do you have for this year? I don’t do resolutions as I always crash and burn with them but I do set some goals. Pretty nebulous ones, for sure, because then I am less likely to fail. I have this character flaw that won’t allow me to back down from a challenge so I make sure I don’t set the bar too high (kind of self-defeating, I know).
My main goal is to try to focus more on being in the moment as opposed to fretting about the future. I tend to worry about things that never happen and I’d like to learn to stop that. I also set a goal of two new novels written this year as well as building the legal practice back up since it suffered a bit this past year with one big case that ate up my time. What about you? Any firm goals or are you a vague goal-setter like me?
I hope everyone had a great Christmas. Everything is pretty much back to some sort of normality here in the UK and the sales are in full swing. From Christmas Eve most of the ads on TV are for the sales which start here on Boxing Day (traditionally the day after Christmas when servants would receive gifts from their masters which became known as a “Christmas box”). Having shopped-out prior to Christmas, I always think I’ll be happy to give the sales a miss, and yet I always seem to be ready to bag a bargain!
But mostly the period between Christmas and New Year finds me in reflective mode and, can I say, a little melancholy. Not sure why, and I wonder if most everyone feels this way. It’s not so much the let down after the frenzy of the season, but more reflecting back on what I’ve achieved the past year and whether I feel I’ve made the most of it.
Looking back, I’ve met most of the goals I set myself for 2013 – written two fiction novels and one non-fiction book, boarded what seems a plethora of puppies for Guide Dogs, had some lovely trips away, and finished some jobs around the home that seem to have been at the planning stage for ages. All in all it’s been a pretty great year. But have I fulfilled the potential of the year? It’s always hard to say. What I do know is the year has gone by at lightning speed and I spent most of it in busy mode.
So here I am reflecting on last year and planning for next. Some of my goals so far are to be more organised (that’s a big one), write two more novels, take more trips away with AJ, but mostly I plan to take time to savour and value everything. To, in the words of Henry David Thoreau, “suck out all the marrow of life”.
That’s the plan anyway. How about you? What are your goals for 2014?