My husband and I hit a milestone last month. Thirty years married. That’s pretty exciting. He keeps saying “I can’t believe she’s put up with me this long” but I say it goes both ways. It seems to be a tradition at weddings/showers these days to write down words of wisdom to keep a marriage going. My biggest tip relates to communication. Be interested in what each other is saying, even if you’ve heard the story a bunch of times. (Ummm, we might both be guilty of that.)
It takes a lot of work to stay together. The number of times we’ve compromised over the years are too many to count. There are times when he lets me win an argument, as well as vice versa. And there’s an ebb and flow to marriages. It’s not all roses and sunshine. Sometimes, we don’t get along. Sometimes we do. Like I said, it takes work.
It’s worth the work, though. I can count on my husband for anything. And, again, vice versa. He loves my strengths and my weaknesses. Well, okay, maybe one or two of those, he doesn’t love so much. Lol. But I can count on him and him on me. We help each other through trials, we laugh together, we even know how each other thinks most of the time.
A long married life isn’t boring, either. We manage to find new things to enjoy. And, well, there’s honestly nothing we can’t do…together. So I’m grateful we’ve made a go of this. And I’m looking forward to the next 30 years. 🙂
Just a few of the many reasons I love my guy:
- He’s a homebody who has traveled because I wanted to, and he surprised himself with how much fun he had.
- When we need (my word, not his) a new piece of furniture, he goes out to his shop and builds it!
- When he sees something interesting, he first wants to share it with me.
- He still reaches for my hand, even after 35 years together.
I am grateful for us. And I hope you’ve all had (or get) the opportunity to know what it’s like to have someone there with you through thick and thin for the long haul. It’s pretty amazing.