Held In Suspension

March has slipped into April already (how did that happen so quickly?) and spring has well and truly arrived. A few April showers and a lovely weekend gladdens the heart, raising the spirit. It’s been a glorious time for spring bulbs and flowers, the forsythia hedge at its best. I love this hedge at this time of year but during winter it’s bare, boring once leaves have been shed in autumn. At least for the rest of summer it’s a bright green. It’s been a fabulous season too for hyacinths and daffodils and primulas and now the tulips are out along with the sweet-scented wallflowers.

Now all this profusion of colour should be making the Domino household happy but since the new year, we’re living as if in suspended animation, with our breaths held, waiting … waiting. You see, last summer my husband was diagnosed with circulatory problems in his leg and the suggestion made he needed a stent fitted: a simple op under local anaesthetic as a day patient. He had an MRI scan in July, and there the story came to an abrupt halt. We assumed he was on the waiting list and, not being urgent, his time would come around in due course. So we waited… and waited…

Just after Christmas, our GP rang to ask what was happening – Had Dave been for his scan? What was the outcome? – because our GP hadn’t been informed by the hospital. I told him we’d heard nothing, not even if he was on the waiting list. Our GP said he would chase the consultant and find out the situation. More waiting… At the end of February, we were advised the op was scheduled for 17th March. Two days before this, a phone call revealed it had been put back to 28th and he would be under a different consultant surgeon. And so more waiting…

Meanwhile, we tried to carry on as normal, although Dave found it hard, he now has difficulty walking and his job involves a lot of it. On 26th March, a further call advised the op was put back yet again to 4th April. Oh boy! This was not good. Neither of us could focus on anything much. Always waiting for the postman. Hoping the telephone wouldn’t ring with a further delay. Waiting… dreading… waiting…

Last week, we had a long meeting with the surgeon, who explained for the first time what the op entailed, why the delay and why he had taken over Dave’s case. This was a good meeting because up until that point we had no real idea of what was involved: a long 4-hour two-part major surgical procedure under general anaesthetic, far more complicated than just a stent fitted. At least we knew the good outcomes now and what could go wrong. Worrying.

And yes, more waiting… but this time it was good waiting time. It enabled Dave to get a lot of planting done, potatoes, broad beans, onions in along with some summer bulbs. It also meant he could join the family in celebrating my mother’s 91st birthday last Sunday, especially too as my brother was over from Spain as a surprise for her again. It was. And a lovely day had by all, sadly no photos this time.

The 4th is tomorrow. I have to take Dave to hospital at 7 am. He will be in for several days followed by at least 6 weeks at home recuperating. So you can understand why we feel life has been on hold these past few months. At least we’re there now, we hope. Our only fear is that even though  he’s first on the list for the day, should a bigger emergency take precedence, he may be put back yet again.

The waiting’s almost over, but not quite. But then afterwards, at least we will slowly be able to get our lives back to normal, breathe a sigh of relief and enjoy the summer.

 

 

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8 responses to “Held In Suspension

  1. Hope everything goes well Kit, crossing fingers. xxx

  2. Well, I’ve never been one to WISH for surgery, but I sure hope he doesn’t get put off again. It sounds like you’ve got all the information you needed to make an informed decision. And that this should significantly improve things for Dave. So I’ll be praying the post-op outlook is as bright as those flowers of yours. (LOVE the Forsythia hedge. I think I need to buy more plants. Lol.)

  3. Thinking of you both, Kit. Hope it’s over very soon and Dave is safely back home! xx

  4. Oh what a wait! BUT I will be thinking of you both today, you are in the hospital now, sending positive thoughts for quick recovery. Gorgeous garden photos. X

  5. I’m glad the wait is over for you and Dave. Like you say, once the surgery is over each day will be a step forward. There’s always a wait from prognosis to the surgery but wow that was a long wait. I can only imagine the stress.

    Love the pictures, it’s been cold and wet here so I’m waiting to get started on spring flowers. Seeing your’s makes me want to get started even more.

    Will be thinking of you.

  6. Apologies for not getting back to you all sooner. Thankfully, Dave’s op went ahead as planned and, so far, all is good. He is now back home and recovering. Will be off work for some weeks, but small price to pay if it means he will be walking without pain. Thank you all for your good wishes and kind thoughts. xxx 🙂

  7. Glad to see the update on Dave. May he continue to heal. So sorry you had all this stress. Hugs – Jillian

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